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Over the past three weeks, we’ve discussed the painful effects of untruth in all its forms: denial, pretending, avoidance and half-truths. After reviewing all the disastrous results: low self-esteem, unfulfilling relationships, heartbreak, family problems, etc., it would seem that truth-telling would be a better and healthier solution. So why does it seem so difficult? This article is the first of a three-part series of articles entitled “In Search of the Truth,” and will be posted for your consideration and discussion on this and the following two Sundays.
The truth is far more intriguing and rare than we might believe. To find and know truth requires keen awareness.
Once upon a time in Alice and Wonderland, there was a White Rabbit with a clock. Those who have seen Alice in Wonderland know, that the Rabbit’s clock doesn’t work. When visitors would come and sit at the long, crumpet-filled table that was bookended by the Rabbit and the Mad Hatter, all participants would wait for the Rabbit to tell that it was time for tea. Since the Rabbit couldn’t tell time on his broken clock, he didn’t know when it was time for tea.
To tell the truth, we must KNOW THE TRUTH.
If we are asked “What time is it?,” then look at our watch and answer, “It’s 4:30 p.m.,” we probably answered as best as we know. However, this may or may not be true. Let’s say our watch stopped, and it is actually be 5:30 p.m.. We can only tell the truth that we know. To help us more closely tell the truth, we might ask ourselves, “Is there a more truthful way for me to respond?” In this instance, a closer truth might sound something like this, “My watch reads 4:30 p.m.”
Another fine way to ferret out the truth is presented by Byron Katie in her book, I Need Your Love. She suggests that we regularly ask ourselves internally, “Is this really true?” The answer(s) we discover can reveal a lot of truth.
To tell the truth, we must KNOW WHO WE ARE.
My loving friend, Natasha, regularly asks me if I would like to join her in the activities that she enjoys. I know this means a lot to her, as she enjoys my company. I also enjoy her company—very much, however, some of the activities she enjoys, like shopping, are mind-numbing to me. I know this about myself. The truth of me is, that if I were to spend an entire day shopping, even if it is with Natasha, I would end the day feeling drained and less joyful. With this in mind, I seek to share time with Natasha doing activities that we BOTH enjoy. *Win-Win.*
For us to more closely live our truth, we might ask ourselves, “Is this activity truly best for me?” In this instance, a closer truth sound like, “Thank you so much for the invitation! I’m not up for shopping, but I miss you. Are you going hiking or biking anytime soon?”
To tell the truth, we must KNOW WHAT WE WANT.
I want, more than anything, to be able to give and receive goodness at 100% and share a message of empowerment. Since I am not willing to compromise this, I can avoid making choices that oppose my truth. For example, last week I was offered a job that would take my time, energy and focus away from sharing my message of empowerment. Although it was a financially lucrative offer that would have had obvious benefits to business networking, it did not match my truth. As interesting as the offer was, it was not in alignment with what I want. Anything that does not bring me closer to what I want, actually takes me away from what I want. So in this instance, I said, “Thank you so very much for the beautiful offer. I truly appreciate the honor of this opportunity, however, I need to focus on my current business. I hope that our paths will cross in the future and opportunities will present themselves to work together in the area of empowerment.”
Truth and Willpower
When we know who we are and what we want, we allow ourselves the opportunity to courageously stand for that. When we make choices, even seemingly small ones—in our truth, we grow and build willpower.
The big picture—we don’t know what we don’t know
Maybe our culture’s apparent lack of truth, lies not so much with the nature of humans being, but rather, that we do not know ourselves and what we want. If we did, we might put our strength, courage, and noble, best effort towards protecting and serving that truth.
What say ye?
Do you know your truth? Can you speak your truth? How do you stay truthful to you? Please share your thoughts and feelings that we may grow together …
Always with love,